Thursday, June 12, 2008
Ch 14 Argumentativeness
What I found to be most interesting in chapter 14 is the concept of argumentativeness. People argue all the time and is it very common for an individual to defend their own views and attack the positions of others. (p.446) It was interesting to read that there are two types of argumentativeness one being, approaching agreements and avoiding arguments. I have found that I am one who likes to avoid arguments at times I will agree with someone just because I don’t want to fight about the topic. I know this is something that I should try and change because I can stand up for myself and by avoiding arguments I am in some ways letting the other person win and allowing him or her to walk all over me. I have found that there are some people who love conflict and will pick a fight. I don’t like these types of people because arguing over something doesn’t really get anything solved it usually gets people mad and then never really resolve an issue or it leads to arguing over basically nothing.
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I don't like to argue, so most of the time I will avoid confrontations. Recently, I've learned that sometimes when you you believe in something so much, you really stand for what you believe in (literally almost); you can't avoid the argument that will follow. I would rather fight for what I believe in than to be stepped on. It's not my pride speaking, but my values and knowing who I am is important to me.
Sometimes, it doesn't hurt to get into a friendly debate and learn what the other person feels and thinks about certain subjects. Other times, it also depends on with whom you're possibly getting into a argument. If the other person is pretty tenacious, I will back down and avoid any confrontations.
Overall, personally, it just depends on a lot of factors, mostly the situation and context at hand.
Hey Carmen, I enjoyed reading about what you had to say about argumentation because I notice that in my everyday life people argur all the time. It just comes down to who is more of the confrontational person and who is the person likely to walk away. I myself, hate arguing. I find i very annoying and draining. Of course everyone argues but some do it more than others. There are people who enjoy finding a reason to argue. When I come across people who do that, I find myself avoiding them or keeping the conversation to a minimal. If I had to argue I would, because it would be for myself or to get my point across, other than that, arguing over nonsense is silly and annoying.
Carmen, you mentioned that sometimes you agree with someone just to avoid an argument. Also, you indicate that you are a person who can stand up for yourself. The book talks about different levels of argumentativeness (high, low) and how the combination of them (high/low, high/high, etc.) could have certain implication for interpersonal relationships. The book does not mention in Ch. 14 that sometimes you need to pick your battle. For example, I get too lazy sometime to argue a point, or the person/issue is not worth my energy. As long as you can stand up for yourself when needed, then I feel that you should not have to change your "individual difference" or style of behaving. That's just my opinion.
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