Wednesday, June 25, 2008
Chapter 11 Stages of Coming Apart
In chapter 11 I enjoyed reading about Knapp and Vangelisti’s stages of coming apart. The five stages are differentiating, circumscribing, stagnating, avoiding and terminating. The first stage is differentiating which is the first stage of a couple coming apart. The second stage is circumscribing which is the main stage is a change in communication between those in the relationship. The third stage is the stagnating stage where the couple put emotional and physical distance between each other. The fourth stage is the avoiding stage where the couple avoids contact with each other. The fifth and last stage is terminating which is when the relationship is completely done and over. Reading about these five stages makes me look back on past relationships and realize that I did go through all these stages. Some stages seem to happen more than others or at least are more apparent for me. I always seem to have the avoidance stage where me and the other person just don’t talk.
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I have to agree that we do go through the stages of a break up. We do not realize that there are stages we go through, but the reality is we do. We realize theres a problem, we discuss the problem, the problem is known but nothing happens, so we distance ourself and end it. No matter what can of relationship we are in, we all do the same procedure.
I found you!! (: I agree in that we all go through these stages in our relationships but don't really realize it at the moment. I find that with most of the concepts I read about in the book, I realize that I do all of them but just never had a name to put to them or realized the stages when they were in the process. I also like that you pointed out that we do all of these stages, but sometimes some more than others and at different times. I, too, perform the avoidance stage more often, at times, and sometimes switch to other ones.
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